Anonymous asked: I just read your post about ableism and I thought it was pretty enlightening, thanks for publishing it. I have a question that I've thought a lot about. Do you think it's OK to use the handicap stall if all other are taken up, and there isn't a person in a wheelchair /walker nearby?
Others will have a different take on this, but mine is that it depends on the situation.
First, it’s important to remember that that stall isn’t just for wheelchair and walker users. Other types of disabilities require it as well. (I have a guide dog, and squeezing her into a regular sized stall can be a challenge, so I always opt for a handicapped stall.)
But I don’t think it’s an issue to use it IF all the other stalls are taken and IF no one with a disability who needs it around. HOWEVER, some folks use the handicapped stall and decide to just kind of hang out in there - chatting on phones, taking up time, etc. This is rude if you’re doing it in a regular stall, too, obviously.
Others will disagree on this and argue that those stalls are strictly for use by disabled individuals. I get that. I can understand that. But for me, personally, I don’t think it’s a problem under certain situations.
Anonymous asked: Hey, just an argument on definition, isn't "normal" defined as a quality that the majority shares? I can see how it's offending for abler people to always be referred to as normal, but by definition, aren't they?
While you might correct on the literal definition, the issue with the word “normal” is that it frames everything else as “other.” Framing those people with disabilities - or, in other cases, sexualities other than heterosexuality, races other than caucasian in the US, etc - as not “other” makes us easier targets for discrimination and segregation. By nature, people are afraid of “other.” Afraid of what is seen as not being normal. Which is why it’s important to take the word “normal” out of the equation. If we treat all abilities, sexualities, and races as normal, we help to keep them from being seen as “other.”
So, yeah. Regardless of definition, I am NOT comfortable with referring to those without disabilities as “normal” and those with them as “not normal.”
So Sept. 7 marks the 3 year anniversary of the release of THE DUFF. Since three is one of my lucky numbers, I thought “Hey, I should celebrate!” and what better way to celebrate than to give things away!
Going through my stuff this weekend, I found lots of fun prizes to giveaway - and now I”m…
(Haters Gonna Hate)
Marnie Michaelson is the new kid in town. Being the daughter of a diplomat, she’s used to moving schools…and countries. After living in Zimbabwe, Costa Rica, and Ireland, she’s happy to be back in her native America. But on the first day at her new exclusive boarding school, Marnie realizes very quickly that she doesn’t belong with her new crowd of classmates. They call her an outsider, an alien, because of her worldly experiences. But if Marnie’s learned anything from her travels, it’s that bullies exist everywhere you go. Haters Gonna Hate, but that doesn’t mean she’s going to put up with them.
Hi! I"m Kody. I write books like THE DUFF (Designated Ugly Fat Friend), SHUT OUT, and A MIDSUMMER'S NIGHTMARE. They're mostly for teens, but if you're a grown up, you should read them, too. Hey, I'm a grown up (okay, that's arguable) and I like them! I'm also kind of a hippie and a dork and I like pink.